Detachment

Definition from Websters:

Main Entry: de·tached 

Pronunciation: \di-ˈtacht, dē-\

Function: adjective

Date: circa 1706

1 : standing by itself : separate, unconnected; especially : not sharing any wall with another building 
2 : exhibiting an aloof objectivity usually free from prejudice or self-interest 

synonyms see indifferent

— de·tached·ly  \-ˈta-chəd-lē, -ˈtacht-lē\ adverb

— de·tached·ness  \-ˈta-chəd-nəs, -ˈtacht-nəs\ noun

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Learning Detachment -AL-NON

I am in the process of learning detachment, to love someone but to not get sucked into the actions that I cannot control- to not feel the guilt, to let it impact my mood, my healing.  Detachment sounds harsh--but it is not.  I use the words from Al-ANON,  "Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgment or condemnation of the person or situation from which we are detaching. It is simply a means that allows us to separate ourselves from the adverse effects that another person’s alcoholism can have upon our lives".  My issues are not alcoholism--but the words speak the truth to me.